How to find and lose a friend in 1 day? The mission is possible!

In short – accept a friend request and refuse the services from that “new friend”.

The story:

One recent morning, I got a friend request (on FB) from a lady named Tatjana. 

I like an expression that I learned here: “Sorry, I am not sorry”.

The expression from me is “I was surprised, but not surprised.”

Lately, I started getting friend requests often, almost daily. 

And I don’t do anything special: I don’t advertise myself, I don’t sell anything, I don’t write posts. However, sometimes I share photos/posts from Instagram / Telegram.

In general, FB and its younger brother IG are not my favorite platforms.

There is a joke: I like people who like me. They have good taste.

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Как найти и потерять друга  за 1 сутки? Миссия выполнима!

Если коротко: принять дружбу и отказаться от услуг “нового друга”.

История: 

Недавно ко мне в друзья на ФБ постучалась одна дама.

В английском есть выражение “Sorry, I am not sorry”. 

Выражение от меня –  “Я удивилась, но не удивилась”. 

В последнее время я иногда получаю по два приглашения (в друзья) в день. 

Причем ничего особенного я не делаю: себя не рекламирую, ничего не продаю, посты не пишу, так иногда делюсь фотками/постами из инстаграм/телеграм. 

Вообще, ФБ с его младшим братом ИГ мои не самые любимые платформы. 

Есть шутка:  Мне нравятся люди, которым я нравлюсь. У них хороший вкус.

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Confidence, Comparison, Happiness

In Russia, my social circle was limited to work colleagues, parents of my children’s classmates, 2-3 girlfriends.

While living in the USA, I met some extraordinary (compared to me) people.

Just for example, a few of them:

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Christmas Eve Thoughts

conversation with the seller:

-Are you Russian?- the seller

-Yes, – I

-I have a Russian sister-in-law. She has the same accent. I don’t understand her sometimes. But her English is pretty good and so is yours.

-Thank you. Tell her … – I tried to tell something nice

-She has a happy life with my brother in Сalifornia…near the ocean..- she couldn’t stop talking

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Don’t bake like me

I baked a cake on Sunday. The weather was inviting, rainy and damp, though warm.

In rainy weather, I want to read, with a cup of tea and a piece of cake or at least a pie.

The choice fell on the Zebra cake. I have loved it since childhood for its simplicity and unsweetened taste. 

You need to mix all the ingredients. Divide the dough into two parts. Add cocoa powder in one of them. Then pour the white and black dough, alternating, into a baking dish. This will give the cake a nice marble look. 

There are two disadvantages in my recipe: there is little sugar and all the ingredients are measured in “faceted glass”.

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Tomsk on the map

and in photos

There are three things you can look at forever: fire, water and women’s parking. If you see me parking, you can even laugh, and I don’t mind. People say that laughter prolongs life.

Maps International designed by Lovell Johns Limited

However, I have something to add to this list – a map, and preferably a large map.

I’ve been honest with you, I’ve said a few times that I don’t know geography. I don’t know what it was: a way it was taught to us, or i didn’t see an opportunity to use the knowledge. I had a good grade, but didn’t know much.

Now the world has changed. I’ve met people from different countries. We are getting news from different places. I became curious about geography.

I mentioned to my husband a few times that I wanted to have a big, no, huge map and … Daniel bought it! I have to tell you, both my husband and the map are so cool!

But you have to be careful, well, I have to be careful – viewing the map can be time consuming. 

Another day I saw Tomsk on the map (when I was just passing by)), then my gaze shifted to Novosibirsk, and then… I ended up in the Aleutian Islands. 

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Женщина и ее собака

20 августа, 178 день войны

Женщина и ее собака вышли на улицу, перешли через дорогу, повернули налево и слились с трафиком.

Перекресток, светофор, команда wait, потом lets go. Надеюсь, что собака уже понимает значение этих слов.

Следующий перекресток, без светофора. И опять команда “wait!” и “let’s go!”.

Сумерки сгущаются быстро. Улицы освещены по русским меркам слабо. Водители практически не видят ни женщину, ни собаку. А те кто видят, не обращают на них внимание. В бесформенных штанах и мужниной клетчатой рубашки женщина выглядит очень “local” (местный, здешний).  

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Evening notes, 5

The best is yet to come

-I don’t like to tell people that I am from Russia – I. 

-Tell them that you’re from Moldova  – said Elena – Hardly anybody knows where it is.

There are three categories of reaction to the answer: Moldova – she continued:

  1. Moldova? – they honestly don’t know where it is. 🤷‍♀️
  2. A-a, Moldova – they pretend that they DO know.
  3. Oh, yes, yes – Maldivi! 

The world is made of paradoxes*.

At the time when I don’t even want to sound Russian, Steven Seagal says he is Russian, Russia is his home. He got Russian citizenship in 2016. The same year when Serbia too granted its citizenship to him. 

Well, to each his own.

The Moscow Times reports that more than 3.8 million Russians have left the country in the first three months of 2022, according to data from Russia’s Federal Security Service (FSB).

4184 people left the Tomsk region – Tomsk telegram channel “Tomsk 1604” says. 

Unfortunately all my family is still there. They are not as rich and popular as Steven Seagal. And  I worry about them every day. 

I just hope everything will be fine and soon. 

* Paradox is a seemingly absurd or self-contradictory statement or proposition that when investigated or explained may prove to be well founded or true.

https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2016/jan/11/steven-seagal-serbian-citizenship-martial-arts-school

https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2022/5/23/many-leave-russia-as-ukraine-war-drags-on

https://www.themoscowtimes.com/2022/05/06/nearly-4m-russians-left-russia-in-early-2022-fsb-a77603

The advantage of walking an uncomfortable dog

Let us temper our criticism with kindness. None of us comes fully equipped.

Carl Sagan

Those who know me know that I have been living in this country for almost nine years. And all these years I have a few feelings that I carry on. 

One of them is the admiration of coziness. 

It comes to me suddenly, at different times and occasions, but sharp and clear. 

Sometimes my cute “uncomfortable” dog Crackle causes this feeling to appear. 

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When age doesn’t mean wisdom

Crackle was barking as he watched me leaving a car. He always does it when he sees me leaving the car or coming back. 

I ran into the store to grab a couple of things that they didn’t have on the shelves earlier this morning. 

I knew Crackle was going to be fine. I left the car windows slightly open for him. And  it was unusually cold for summer. But anyway, I was fast. I had only two items in my basket when I approached the cashier. All of the sudden, the woman behind me asked: “Let me pay for your groceries”. 

-What? Why?

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