When my husband’s wife is Russian

It’s believed that married men live longer.

Choosing a life partner is one of the most difficult and important decisions. Choosing a foreign spouse is also a costly decision. 

My husband got married in his 50s. He surprised everyone twice: first by the fact of marriage and marriage to a Russian. Getting a Russian wife wasn’t the goal, it just happened. 

So, what’s it like to have a Russian wife?

There are pros and cons.  I can tell you only our family experience which may not apply to other international marriages. 

My husband’s Russian wife is:

 I can cook 7 types of soup but Daniel eats only 3 out of 7.  I don’t know how to cook meat. I don’t know American dishes and recipes, I’m learning though.  I like to cook for relatives and friends. But lately I prefer do not spend too much time in the kitchen. 

  • A gardener

I’ve grown a lot of vegetables back in Russia. But here, in the US, I never know what to expect from my gardens partly because of climate differences. I don’t  stress myself out about the crop either, there are some competitors for picking it up ( squirrels and birds).

Yes, I’m very superstitious. That makes Daniel smile a lot. Just recently I’ve mentioned that my left hand was so itchy. That means I’m supposed to get money. And a few days later we got a rebate check from our Health insurance company.

Since my arrival, I have met many people and made some friends. Once my husband thanked me for meeting a very interesting couple.

  • Nice looking

Actually, I was nice looking woman in the past. In the US it’s very difficult to cope with surrounding lifestyle. Daniel often tells that I’m overdressed for dinner at the restaurant, so I have to wear jeans rather than nice dresses. Hopefully I won’t get to the point of wearing pajamas to a grocery store. However, I may go shopping not wearing make-up, I’m getting bad. 

  • With a wide open mind

Because I’ve never planned to relocate to the US I didn’t know anything about the country. So now I have to learn everything and quick. Some days I torture  my husband with bad pronunciation, the others – with reading aloud, asking about a car maintenance or “how to say correct”. In a word, Daniel is never bored and even  proud of my achievements.

  • Handy and practical

I can help with firewood, gardening, shoveling snow, fixing zippers, assembling shelves.

  • Positive

I try to find the positive in each difficult and different situations. 

  • Stubborn

No explanation, just trust me.

  • Strong and sensitive at the same time

Daniel doesn’t quite understand that fact. He just has to live with it. I can cry when I feel helpless.  He told me, “You were very strong when you lived in Russia”. Of course, I was and still is. The thing is Russian women like to feel weak near their men. Our men are our knights!

I guess that’s all that comes to mind now. Feel free to share with your opinion about my family or yours.  

Author: Elena

Hi, My name is Elena. I am Russian living in the US. My blog is about my life and experience. This is my new hobby. So, please, don't be too hard on me. Thanks

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